Six Tips When Breaking Up Via Email

Are you thinking of breaking up with your partner? Over email? Really? Let’s think about this for a second. Has your partner physically or emotionally


you? If so, staying away from a face to face breakup may be a good idea. If you are just wanting to break up over email for your own convenience I would encourage you to take responsibility for your actions and do it in person. If for whatever reason you still may need to break off your relationship over email keep the tips mentioned below in mind.

1. Do your best to stick with the facts when discussing the break up as opposed to sharing your feelings. 

It's hard for the other person to dispute facts. If you share your feelings, they may try to convince you to change your mind.

2. Refrain from posing questions in your email.

 Why seek a response if you are wanting to END the


? Stick with the facts.

3. Take the other person's feelings into consideration.

 Use phrases that show your empathy such as "I would imagine you are feeling___________." Be firm in your decision but compassionate.

4. Keep in mind that putting things in writing can come came back to haunt you later on down the road.

Choose your words wisely. You definitely do not want to regret anything later on that you may have written out of anger or hurt.

5. Remember that email can be forwarded, so decide ahead of time how personal you want to get in the message.

6. Finally, if the relationship is definitely over, don’t give the other person any other impression.

Again, I encourage you strongly to talk with your partner in person. Take responsibility for what you are going to do. Be firm, stick to the facts, but also show compassion and kindness in your speech. After all, this was once a person you were interested in dating. 

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