Five Benefits: Celibacy and Twenty Something

Celibacy? A new trend? Can this be possible in a culture that consumed with sex? Indeed it can. Celebrities such as Courtney Love, Katie Jean Arnold and even Lady Gaga, according to a recent article in the New York Post, are taking vows of celibacy. The question that many people would ask here is WHY? You may ask what could possibly be beneficial about this. Let’s take a look at what a “sex fast” really is all about.What exactly is a sex fast or taking a vow of celibacy?

  • Basically, you are taking a break from sex for a while to focus all your energy on different parts of your life, whether it may be work, family, a hobby, or devoting yourself to God.

  • It gives you the possibility to focus on yourself and your goals in life, not having to worry about that part of the relationship with your partner.

  • It also gives you the opportunity to get to know your partner for who he really is, emotionally and spiritually rather than physically.

Are there really benefits from taking a sex fast?You might not believe it, but yes there are! Let’s take a look at some of the benefits listed below.

  1. You get to develop true intimate relationships with your friends or even with your partner that do not revolve around sex at all but rather have a true sincerity in them.

  2. You’ll have that extra energy to get things done that you have been putting off for a while now and will feel great about it at the same time, too!

  3. It will give you a chance to focus on yourself and maybe even give you a chance to catch up with some long lost friends.

  4. Take that cooking class you’ve always wanted to take, further your education or enjoy that hobby that always seems to get ignored.

  5. Get involved. Volunteer. Do something for a worthy cause. Give back to the community. You’ll love it!

These are just a few of the many things that can bring fulfillment and depth to who you are without feeling pressured in your relationship or feeling guilty the next day!Are guys more interested if you are celibate?

  • Men want what they cannot have. Be aware though that even if you say NO to sex, some may try you, wanting you to give in, seeing if you will really stick to your boundaries.

  • How interested they really are you will find out after the first few dates. Is he still sticking around even though you stood firm in your decision to stay away from sex?

  • Don’t you want your man to love you for who you are not for what you can give him in bed? Isn’t that really what matters? Give it a try, stay away from sex. Focus on your relationship with him, get to know him, get to know each other as friends, that way you will truly see how much he cares for you. There is always an appropriate time for sex, there is no rush, it can wait. Enjoy your relationship for what it is until you are both ready to take it to the next level.

Now is your chance. Give it a try. Whether you decide to be celibate for a certain period of time during your relationship or you decide to refrain from sex until you get married, this time of celibacy will give you an opportunity to get to know yourself and if you are in a relationship truly get to know your partner. Enjoy it! 

About the Author:

Relationship Expert, Janie Lacy, MS offers expert advice to Local and National TV News, Relationship Websites and provides phone or face-to-face counseling in the Orlando area. Janie has a relational approach and a unique ability to connect with individuals. Drawing upon her broad range of experience in private practice, not-for-profit organizations, hospitality and the medical industry, she has helped countless people in many arenas of life. She offers keen insight on all aspects of relationships – family, marriage, parenting, dating, and personal growth. Connect with Janie on