Three Reasons Women Blame the Other Woman

You find out your husband was or has been having an affair.  Who do you blame?  Most of the time we tend to put our anger toward the “other” woman when the responsibility most often should be allocated to the betrayer of the


-your husband.  This is not to say that the “other” woman had no responsibility at all, especially if she knew that he was


.  You might believe that if it were not for the “other” woman, your husband would have not betrayed you but keep in mind that if it was not for her, most likely there would have been a “different” one.

What are the main reasons that women blame the other woman?  There are three main reasons that I have seen women blame the other woman.  They are listed below:

1 - The false belief that without the “other” woman in the picture there would have been no affair.2 - It is less painful for the betrayed to believe that another woman is the cause of the affair rather than her own husband.3 - In some cases, the couple bonds by blaming the other person.  When a woman is in shock after finding out about her husband’s affair, often times it is easier to hate “the woman” especially if the “other woman” knew the man was married to someone else.



Primarily to blame is the betrayer.  To save the marriage, the couple will need help and guidance in restoring their broken trust for each other.NOTE: You can freely redistribute this resource, electronically or in print, provided you leave the author's contact information below intact.

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